Hepaticas
A year after my husband died I felt especially down. I was in one of those "nothing is good, everything is hard, poor me" sort of moods. I stubbornly pushed myself to come up with one good thing, maybe two. It was spring and I remember thinking "well, at least I can walk out my door and be in the woods." So I did. The hepatica's were blooming. Sweet little lavender flowers with tri-lobe fuzzy stemmed leaves. Everywhere. Dotting the forest with little peeps of joy. On my way home, I remember thinking "at least every spring the hepaticas bloom." Then it was as if I noticed for the first time that "I really like the color blue when its in the sky." That little hike was what got me on to healing. I know people have animals as totems, but mine would have to be a hepatica.
Today, that deep sadness seems miles away. I can come up with a long list of good things, some I am sure would make people wonder. Gathering beach glass, looking inside a flower, the color and texture of ground cover in the woods, hearing the waves on Lake Michigan from my bed. Romancing the Ordinary.
I am not the first. Sarah Ban Breathnach wrote a delightful book seven years ago: Romancing the Ordinary - A Year of Simple Splendor - goodness, it's only $.03 on Amazon! If you are having a hard time coming up with your mental list, this one is sure to jump start it.